A-Z of Romance: R is for Romance

Well of course it is.


What is Romance?

If you want the dictionary definition, romance is the feeling of excitement and mystery that comes with love, or a short and brief affair (i.e. a holiday romance). In the movies and books, romance is hearts and flowers. Chocolates, champagne, being swept off you feet… And I suppose to a certain extent that’s true – romance is all about emotions. But I don’t think it has to be excitement, mystery, or a fling. I don’t think you need to surprise your loved one to be romantic. Plus, let’s face it, if you’re trying to romance someone into a relationship, constantly springing up with bouquets of roses and bottles of plonk, serenading them at the door, could become a little bit… Well… Stalkery.

So what is romance? To me, romance is just showing someone that you love them by doing something they enjoy. It doesn’t have to be candlelit dinners under the moon, or nightly walks across a golden beach. In my case, romance is making me a curry and then snuggling on the sofa to watch an action or thriller movie, and bringing me a cup of tea.

Romance is as individual as fingerprints. Everyone is different, so what works on one person, may not work on the someone else. Romance could be dinner and a dance, a rom-com movie with popcorn, a holiday alone in the Bahamas. Or it could be a walking holiday in Yorkshire, visiting a local museum, a takeaway in front of the telly.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – the most romantic thing any couple can do is talk openly about how they feel, and what they want from the relationship.

3 thoughts on “A-Z of Romance: R is for Romance

  1. Thanks for writing this.
    There’s so much heartfelt truth in it. Yes, romance is individual and unique like fingerprints.
    Several years ago, a friend of mine started a little business to bring more romance and love into people’s lives. Sadly, it didn’t go too far. While so many people like the idea of infinite romance, and the wonderful creative ways that she would arrange romantic events for lovers, the business didn’t take off. So many said that the most romantic things actually were not these special events with champagne and roses and gondola rides. Instead, romance came in those little moments of loving look, a kind gesture, or a simple touch.
    Here’s to romance however it shows up!

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